Wednesday 30 January 2013

OH, THOSE WONDERFUL AND SENSATIONAL FEELINGS OF BEING SECRETLY ADMIRED!


1961: Co-curricular Activity, involving AAB (2nd from right back row). His secret admirer remains a mystery to this day!

Little that  I thought  that at 69, the circular and reversible age I would be given a thunderous shake up that I had  a silent admirer during my formative years of being a man! Oh Allah, You are the greatest, the most merciful, the most benevolent, the most gracious and the most lovable, that you gave me such a gift at my old age, a gift of knowing that I had a silent admirer in the form  of a beautiful charming and lovely lady, may Allah always bless her and family. Masya Allah, Allah Hu Akbar. Nothing is impossible for Him!!!

I thank Thee Allah for keeping this wonderful tidings and keeping it a secret for me until my old age. If only you revealed it to me then I would have imagined that my life would definitely be different from those that I had gone through those developing  years of my life until my present day situation. I would have imagined that I would have a wonderful and blissful married  life with my silent admirer. I would have lots of children, sons and daughters-in-law, and numerous grand children to carry on the AAB tradition. Oh! Such a wishful thinking!!! My house would be ever so lively with my children and In laws as well as my many beautiful and lovable grand children whenever we have a family gathering. There would be endless laughter and cries, as well as squabbles and disappointments as there would be quarrels and misunderstandings amongst the grand children. Oh, what a beautiful imagined life would it be.

Or would it be just the other way around. Would there be such a blessed life. Or would there be a life of hell on earth. For why not. Life would not be just a bed of sweet roses minus the thorns. Life could be as nasty as nasty could be. There would be a life of endless fears and expectations from both sides of the couple. Would the male be loving enough as to shower the partner with kisses and loving praises. Or would there be a torturous incidents every now and then that the partner would be sorry for first setting an eye on the face of the person she secretly admired. The answer is, your answer will be as good as mine. Who can tell, but Allah.
Form 2 1959 TBS: Pretty ladies in the front row: Could anyone of these ladies be AAB's mysterious secret admirers!
On the other hand, life would be totally different from that imagined above. Life would be very miserable. AAB would not be able to live up to his silent admirer's whims and fancies. Neither would AAB be able to fulfil his task as a good partner responsible and capable enough to perform his duties well. Would it be that AAB's silent admirer would demand too much and beyond his capabilities, that he was just  a man of no stature as portrayed in his school celebrity picture that he craftily painted, that captured the imagination of certain ladies. Anything could be the outcome. Anything at all.

Or for that matter it would be just as the secret admirer wanted her life to be when betrothed to AAB. Well if that was the case that would be, secret admirer would definitely have Allah to thank for, for giving her such a life that she had been dreaming of. She would be really made the Queen of his castle. She would be always put on a high pedestal, that AAB would be forever adoring her and forever more be thankful to Allah for giving him such majesty of a queen. A queen of his dreams. She would all the time respect him as a spouse, a partner, a companion, a lover, a comforter, a councillor, a jester, a protector, and last but not least a father, and a responsible one too,to her his  children. Would there be such a thing. Well definitely, there would, for nothing is impossible with Allah's guidance and help.

Either would it be just a plain and ordinary life. A life smooth sailing with minor or semi big waves, mild and sometimes strong winds not tantamount to a storm. If that was the case it was very good for the secret admirer and for the admired. Good for them.

What if there was a turbulent one. Every day secret admirer will be tortured physically and mentally. Physically, she would be ignored, abandoned, left alone without any communications  be it verbally or body languages or understood signs and symbolisation which are so common among married and loving partners. Or mentally, she would be disgraced, humiliated, jested, scolded, frowned upon, undermined, ignored and ridiculed and left to sleep alone at night. With no one to bolster. No one to kiss. No shoulder to put her head on and to whisper the divine phrase, i love you darling! Softly, ever so softly, and receiving an acknowledgement with a soft nod and soft I love you too sweetheart wringing in the cool night air of their bedroom. And the secret admirer would whisper please forgive all my sins darling. Likewise the admired too would ask for forgiveness before they fell into a very satisfied and sound sleep for the beautiful night.

Or would the secret admirer be able to accept  his many weakness which to name a few are his swell headedness, his temperaments, his stubbornness. His main weakness is small things affect him enormously. He is very sensitive to trivial things and comments. Such as, he was so elated during his wonderful school and teaching carrier, when he received an appreciation from one of his former pupils, may be the one and only that he received during his entire carrier, that he cherished it to this very moment. It was just a word of thanks from a student who had succeeded in life, whom he thought while the student was in form three. Such was a minute incident that he encountered almost fifty years ago. Was not that great.

What is the worst scenario that would be if his burst of temper and anger, that sparked out of a very negligible comment by the secret admirer, were to take place. Would she be able to take it. Once in a while one would be able to stomach it. What if it recurs incessantly and out of no reasonable cause at all. Would not  secret admirer be sorry and cursed the day she set an eye on this so termed school celebrity which was so aloof and self centred and snobbish too. Would she be sorry! Or would she endure all his shortcomings  and accepted them as part of Allah's takdir on her!? And she kept on her divine prayers to Allah to grant her a blessed and blissful life at the end of the dark, gloomy, soggy, and narrow tunnel!  For she believed that every cloud has its silver lining.

Oh secret admirer if you chose the latter,you are nothing but a heavenly angel of a woman. And without an iota of a wicked doubt you will be placed in Allah's heavens. And you will live there eternally happily ever after. You would be very lucky, secret admirer.  If you chose the former. i would not dare to imagine what sort of life you might undergo.

Was I lucky to be revealed with a secret admirer at old age or was I unlucky that I was not informed of this secret admirer while I was  at my tender age. The answer I think is  it is both lucky and unlucky.

Lucky because I could compose the above discourse. If I knew it then the above imagination would not have been composed. The post might be a  recollection and flashback of what had happened. It would be a mere replay of things past. It would be a true story of what had taken place in the lives of the secret admirer and the admired. It would possibly be more interesting, or it would be as boring as the sound of the unfortunate owl hooting through out the night. The incidents would surely be different from those portrayed above.

Unlucky because, I would not be able to compose the incidents that I composed above. Reason being I did not achieve the present life that I am living now. I would not have been a teacher as i flung my form five examinations. The SC and the FMC results, or either, were the trump cards for  a decent employment, those days. A person without an SC or an FMC qualification could never be a clerk or a teacher in those days. A person with only an LCE, would only be employed as an office boy, or an ordinary nurse at a hospital. Such was the importance of a sound education then.

I said I would not attain the present level of life because, I failed my form five examinations. I forgo my education, as I was deeply involved in busying myself with my secret admirer day and night spending and wasting every moment of my precious time together with her. Those were  the sweetest  moments of our lives together.

Instead of busying myself with revising my lessons, my time was spent with my secret admirer. As such when the form five examinations started, my mind was filled with sweet moments of love with secret admirer. When the form five results were announced, my result was full of nines. This possibility was not far fetched. This possibility could very  well happen to me. For I had the Form Two experience, when I did badly in my exams, just because I was day dreaming of a very cute and charming girl that captivated my imagination that I abandoned my studies. I was not focused.

That was self gratification. Imagine if there was secret admirer to play with and to talk sweetly to as if in real life. Concentration on my studies would surely be zero. And that would be the very end of my education and for that matter my life too.

One may argue that, you can pick up later in you studies. The were many who had done so. That might be true. Nevertheless damage had been done. And one episode of bleakness had adorn your otherwise beautiful life. Your second attempt would surely be very precarious.

Such were the dilemmas that I had to face both for knowing early that I had a secret admirer, and for knowing late of my secret admirer, at old age. Nevertheless, either has its pros and cons.  Well secret admirer such is life, and it must go on whether for the better or for the worse. You are the player and it depends how you play it.       ........    aab, 094030012013 almosttheendof1stmo.
                                               
           

Thursday 24 January 2013

ON THE EVE OF MAULIDUR RASUL: THE DIVINE GIFT


 Hari ini kita memperingati Mauludur Rasul tanda kesyukuran kita kepada Illahi.

On 20.7.2008, through much persuasion by my  neighbour-daughter, i was admitted to Sime  Darby Medical Centre, with a terrible wound in my right foot. The wound was an after result of a small blister between the big toe and the second toe. The blister was incurred as a result of walking in a semi tight shoes,from tha International Eye Specialist Centre, in Mid Valley City, to the taxi stand to catch a taxi to take me hone after a treatment at tha centre.
The greatness of Allah's invaluable gift.

Knowing that I am a diabetic, i quickly went to  a local GP, to treat my blister. After days of taking antibiotic prescribed by the GP, the blister got worse. So much so I was advised by the GP, to consult an orthopaedic surgeon which I did.
I was treated by this Otho surgeon for a couple of weeks at the SDMC. I was very amused when the surgeon told me that my ailment will heal in no time. Very soon I would be able to mount Gunung Kinabalu he said.

Allah is great and He is Almighty. SuhanaAllah. Humans can only plan, but the final decision is definitely Allah's. My blister got worse. Actually I destroyed my self, for, the surgeon had advised me not to wet the blistered foot with water. I was very stubborn. When I wanted to do  the Solat I wet the foot. Little did I know that tap water is germ full. The blister was beyond repair because of the diabetes.

Seeing the condition of the wound caused by the blister, my neighbour-daughter persuaded me to go to SDMC. Without much argument I had to accord. For it was for my own good too. At the centre my would was dressed. The wound definitely had deteriorated. For,the flesh was rotten and soggy. It was definitely bad for the nurse that dressed the wound  inserted into the hollow in the foot about a meter of ribbon gauze to suck out the soggy mess inside. I was then warded for treatment. My health deteriorated. For at one moment I was even in the blue. I collapsed blacked out. I underwent some series of tests and was injected with some various medicine, it was to no avail. Finally the unfortunate right foot was amputated ankle high, it was the unfortunate 16th day of July, year 2008 that Abu Aman was fated to be a handicapped, an OKU, a disabled old man at 65 years of age.  Abu Aman lost his right leg.
Destinasi terakhir Kembara TIBIES di rumah Ghazali Yasin di Kuala Johol.

Who knows what was in store for me, except, The Great Allah. Allah nicely planned things for me and family right from the start. At first He prompted my wife to move to KL to be near the children.  If anything should happen to me she would be helpless, in Taman Setiawan. For we had nobody else in Tampin. There will be only the  three  of us, my wife, my handicapped child, and me. In KL there will be our children, our nieces and nephews, as well as our sisters. Such was the logic that urged us to move to KL.

Next item in Allah's agenda was for me to really want to buy an auto driven car, which I did in February 2008. In July I  buried my precious and priceless leg. Now I drive around with my left leg, without  doing anything to the car. There was no modification whatsoever done to the peddle. Such is the love of Allah for me, which I must be thankful to him, Syukran Jazilan Ya Allah,!!!
Abu Aman Bachik (right) with Mohamad Ibrahim at Salleh's Kemansah Heights home, 25 December 2012. Fetched by Ghazali Yasin all the way from Kuala Johol.

Another Greatness and the Almighty of Allah is manifested in his bestowal of gems and angels of friendship to me. They are in the form of  ex Brinsfordians such as Hj Abdullah Sani bin Hj Abdul Ghani, Hjh Azizah bt Abd Hamid, Haji Hassan bin Hewab and Hjh Zainab bt Kechik who forever will come to visit me, ever since after our college days, Dr. Hj. Mohyani bin Razikin who will always call and SMS me to wish me well and to find out how  the family and me were.

And now I am yet bestowed with  two sets of angels and pearls of friends in the form of Ahmad Fadzil bin Hj Yassin and Mohd Ghazali bin Yasin. They are not blood brothers though. But they are definitely brothers in Islam. I feel it is not too much for me to call them angels and pearls of friends because they aro so lovable, so kind and so selfless and helpful, especially for a handicapped person like me. Why do I have a very, very high esteem and regards of them???

For AFY, he comes to my house to fetch me and send me back afterwards when we finish visiting friends, or attending a wedding, or attending a khenduri. We went together to German Malaysia Institute at bangi, to attend Tuan Presiden son's wedding. Together we travelled to Bandar Spring Hill in Port Dickson to  attend Dato' Abdullah Abbas and Datin Rozna's khenduri Menyalang anak kembar mereka. On the 25th December we went together for Kembara TIBIES SATU, to Kuala Johol, after attending  a wedding ceremony in Seremban, a trip to Penajih, to Semerbuk, to Tenyamor in Rembau and finally to Kuala Johol. Next will be a trip to Mohamad Ibrahim sister's house in Tenyamor, for MI's wedding anniversary Khenduri, And then to our Alma Mater TBS the Great which will be our Kembara TIBIES DUO.

For GY, he stopped at my house on his way to Salleh Simon's house who threw a goodwill party, to fetch me along, all the way from Kuala Johol, to  attend SS party. He has already promised me on his way to AFY's house on 3/2/2013, to stop at my house and fetch me to bring me along to AFY's house for the Pot Luck Grand First Gathering.

Such is Almighty Allah's love for me. He accepted my rotten foot, instead he gave me a better substitute.  FRIENDSHIP AND ITS GREAT VALUES. Allah Hu Akbar. Nothing is impossible for Him. Allah The Benevolent.      aab putra heights, 153824032013, eve of Maulidur Rosul.

Sunday 20 January 2013

KEMBARA TIBIES 2: KITO KO GHUMAH AKAK MOHAMAD IBRAHIM BOGHAMAI-GHAMAI, AHAD 10 FEBRUARI 2013.. DATANG, JANGAN TAK DATANG...


Ujang (Mohamad Ibrahim kiri dan abang tuo Abu Aman Bachik .
 
Kembara TIBIES 2: Ko Tonyamor Kito di ghumah Akak Ujang
Pado 3 Februari  2013, ado pot luck kek poghak Ahmad Fadzil Yassin. Pado 10 Februari, perayaan hari ulang tahun perkahwinan Ujang Tonyamor (Mohammad Ibrahim) kek ghumah akak eh di Tonyamor (Kg. Batang Nyamor, Gadong). Pado 1 Mei 2013, walimatul urus anak Ghazali Ujang di Shah Alam dan menurut Sekretaris 2 Alumni TBSST  yang baghu ditunjuk, pado 5 Mei 2013  Hari Peringatan pertama penubuhan Alumni TBSST. Hampir setahun sudah Grup Alumni TBSST ini ditubuhkan socara sukorela. Bak kata Tuan Presiden, Zahriman Alias, walaupon kughang somonggah tompi bolehlah botahan. Dan sopoti kato Ghazali Yasin “gaining strength to strength” dan GY mominjam kato-kato Hanafi Hassan.
Lopeh pot luck kek poghak AFY, kito kono tumpukan pado perayaan Kahwin  Dak Ujang Tonyamor pulak. Donga eh somoleh lembu dan buek pulak socagho bosar-bosaran. Kalau boleh mintak sangat somua anggota grup Alumni datang boghamai-ghamai moraikan kawan kito ini. Kalau tak silap Tampang, ini hari ulangtahun ko-45.
Ghumah akak Mohamad Ibrahim di Tonyamor.

Ujang Tonyamo ini posagho pulis, sopoti hal eh dongan ZA atau CLA dan  dongan kenkawan dalam pasukan bounifom kosolamatan kito. Jaso eh kopada nogara Masya-Allah bukan main bosa laie. Tak boleh kito nafian doh, walaupun persepsi sogolintir masyarakat kito kurang monyonangkan. Namun itu kan biaso dalam mano-mano kolaziman hidup bermasyarakat. DI mano-mano pon di atas bumi yang kito sobut “planet earth” ini.Tak usahlah kito ghisau an, kato GY.

Tampang mengucapkan takniah kopado Ujang Tonyamor atas inisiatif monjompot somuo anggota Grup Alumni TBSST ko ghumah akak eh kek Tonyamor. Mako tak ado sobab kenkawan tak maun datang, kalau ado hal lain coghitolah. Kalau boleh sompek-sompeklah dighi kito hadir moghayokan hari bosojarah, paling-paling buek kawan kito Ujang Tonyamor ini.
 Kuih Godobung di ghumah akak Ujang di Tonyamor.Boboghapo kenkawan sodang monghadapi kuih godobung. Godobung ini dibuek khas untuk Kembara TIBIES 1, singgah unuk minam di Tonyamor.

Kalau ikut susur-galur koluarga, Ujang Tonyamor ini sowarigh dan sokodim dongan kobanyakan ex-TBS yang dah jadi atuk dan uwan kek Mukim Gadong, khususnya di Tanjong dan Gadong.Ado kaitan koluarga dongan Cikgu Baba Baki dan anakakanda Rashdan Baba (yang juga alumni TBS). Mongikut salsilah yang dicoghito an olh Ujang Tonyamor, Ujang berkait warigh molalui Atuk Mohd Yatim Tnjong yang kahwin dongan Uwan Adan (Saadan Kassim). Anak mereka e-TBS, Rohana dan Masitah Yatim, adalah omak sodagho dak Ujang. Dan Rohana dan Masitah ini pangkat mak sodagho pulak dongan soghang lai ex-TBS, iaitu Ahmad Fadzil Yassin. Sobab, Uwan Adan dongan Uwan AFY adik-boghadik. (Saadan yang tuo dan Cikyah yang mudo). Mereko ini ghamai adik-ogadik, antaro eh Abu Hassan Kassim yang melalui perkahwinan dongan oghang Todatar, dapeklah Nabjeah Aziz. Soghang lagi adik , Yusof namo eh, kahwin jugak dongan oghang Todatar, dapeklah Roznah Md. Jan.

Yang sobolah Mohd Yatim , warigh Ujang ini, ado yang kahwin dongan oghang Tanjong, dan bokait koluarga pulak dongan Yusof Rahman Tanjong dan Abu Samah Bidin. Dan komudian bokait pulak dongan Ani Kamaruddin Tok Montoghi Tanjong tu. Bilo omak AFY Minah Wahab nikah dongan Abah eh, Yassin Zainal (Al-Fatihah), mereko berkait koluargo pulak dongan uwan AFY sobolah abah. Omak sodagho Abah AFY, (Uwan Anjang Mijo) kahwin pulak dongan Undang Ghombau Datok Lelo Maharajo Hj. Sulong Miah yang bokait koluargo dongan Salleh dan Feisol Mahmod. Yassin abang abah AFY, nama eh Mohd Yatim jugak,  kahwin dongan koghabat Ulu Gadong, bokait pulak dongan Badariah Haron. Hj. Mohd Yatim (lain ibu) bosama Hj. Yassin (abah AFY) monubuhkan madrasah Ulu Gadong yang kini dinamokan Sekolah Menengah Agama berasrama sempena nama tokoh dan bekas Kadi Rembau Utara Haji Mohd Yatim, Ulu Gadong.
 Hari bosojarah buek ALumni TBSST di Kedai Kopi Shah Alam, 1 Mei 2012.

Dan baghu-baghu ini terimo coghito yang koluargo Ghazali Yasin yang saling bokait koluarga pula dongan oghang Tanjong Dak Ujang Boghaim ni. Abah GY, Yasin, yang dipanggil Ulong Asin kek Tanjong ini ghapat botol dongan Johol. Mako jadilah oghang Johol dongan oghang Tanjong dan Gadong, termasuk Tonyamor satu koluargo bosa yang “monimbun banyak eh.” Bolon laie masuk coghito akak Yusof Rahman Tanjong yang kahwin dongan anak abang tuo Uwan Saadan Kassim dan Atuk Abu Hassan Kassim yang bonamo Abd. Rahman Kassim. Abd. Rahman ini bokahwin dongan Uwan Umbo dari Todatar dan dapeklah anak bonamo Yahaya yang komudin nikah dongan akak Yusoff Rahman Tanjong dan Abu Samah Bidin. Adik-boghadik Yahaya ini termasuklah Latiff Rahman, ex TBS. And the “susur-galur” story goes on…and on…and on.- a never ending tale of the Gadong-Tanjong-Todatar-Tonyamor clan.

Last but not least kaitan koluargo abah omak AFY, Wahab bagindo, yang kahwin  dongan Uwan Kesah, akak kopado omak Salleh Simon. Wahab, atuk tiri AFY ini bokait koluargo pulak dongan koluargo Norbaya Shafie, ex TBS dan tontunya turut bokait koluargo dongan Salleh Simon. (Laporan Tampang).

Saturday 19 January 2013

PENGUMUMAN PRESIDEN: KOJO SUKORELA YANG SOMONGGAH


 Reuni 1 Mei 2012 di Kedai Kopi, Shah Alam

Assalamualaikum,

Pado pandangan sei kan, Grup TBSST ni walau nampak tak semonggah yo, terutamo kalau ditengok di sebolah eteh eh....kepalo takdo, bodan takdo....ekor yo yang banyak berjejer-jejer. Tengoklah tu, Persatuan takdo, yang ado hanyo a group of people, bodaftar tidak, berperaturan tidak, yuran takdo, duit tak ponah kutip.....Ado sorang kepalo yang dipanggei Presiden, itu pun bukan dipilih, tapi pakai tunjuk2 yo. Dulu ado sorang Secretary tunjuk, secretary tu pun dah arwah, (Al-Fatihah untuk MZMY).....admin tak ado....yang ado hanyo abang Fadzil yang secara sukarela dan langsung tak menonjolkan namo eh kek mano2 jawatan, bertungkus lumuih melaksanokan kojo2 admin pri-of-caj.......

 Reuni Kedua, jugak di Kedai Kopi, Shah Alam. Tak seramai yang awal.

Di suatu ketiko, maso Alumni wujud, banyak soro sumbang membuek ramalan Grup TBSST dan Alumni kito akan hancor berkocai, akan hilang lonyap......

 Badge TBST, lambang kemegahan dan kekuatan Alumni.

Tapi harini kito dongan banggonyo mengatokan Grup TBSSt totap utuh, keahliah eh makin ramai, perbincangan2 eh makin rancak dn aktiviti2 eh makin menimbun.....memang handal grup kito ni. Tak payah kepalo, tak payah bodan....dongan ekor yang berjejer2 yo kito mampu bertahan, malah makin maju, makin kombang, makin utuh.......

 Kembara TIBIES pertama di Semerbok, ghumah Aziz Ujang.

Esei sebagai "Presiden tunjuk" ni ingin mengatokan kejayaan kito ni adolah eteh sobab bulat eh ahli2 kito apobilo berbincang dan bertindak....apo dicadang, sumo ngikut....jarang ado bantahan. Syabas Ahli2 sekelian......saya jugak melihat ahli2 bukan sajo bertambah dari sogi bilangan, penglibatan masing2 pun bertambah rancak......Selain dari orang2 lamo macam AFY, AAB dan CLA, ado ramai muko2 baru yang menceriokan grup kito.....Terimo kasih amek kepado ahli2 saperti HO, IO, AA, K Teh, MI, GY, SS, JU, Ann, Rozita dan ghamai lagi yang telah menghidupkan grup kito......timo kasih sekali lagi.

 Sobolun ke Semerbok, sompek bogambar di ghumah koluargo Tn Presiden di Ponajih.

Namun di dalam esei menjalankan peranan sebagai "kepalo" tanpa tauliah ni, kadang2 ado jugak maso eh sei buek silap.....sei ngaku yolah tu. Kadang2 salah cakap, kadang2 salah buek......tapi sumo tu taklah disengajokan. Sei pun soda sei tak dapek memuehkan ati sumo kawan2. Macamano pun mensti ado kekurangan.....oleh itu kok ado salah silap mano2, sei mintak banyak2 maap yolah yo....

 Ziarah arwah MZMY sobolon pongkobumian di rumah keluarga di Kepong.Al-Fatihah...

Haa yo, ado satu bondo laei sei nak koba......kito sumo sebagai ahli ni harap2 mainlah peranan masing2 untuk membantu admin yang tak ponah wujud ni. Special mention, sei nak ucap terimo kasih kepado GY Dan AA yang telah menyatakan kesudian mereko untuk membantu bilo kito perlukan sedikit tenago. Dan ahli2 yang lain, kalu boleh jongok2lah selalu pekembangan grup kito, tengok apo kito buek. Janganlah pulak mintak dijomput baru nak datang. Kok dah tau kito ado aktiviti, ikut yolah, tak payahlah tunggu undangan. TBSST ni kito samo2 punyo, kito samo2 menjayokannyo......mungkin disinilah lotak eh kejayaan kito selamo ni.....takdo pemerintah dan takdo yang diperintah.

Sojak sokian lamo tak jumpo Cikgu Hamzah Othman, Kini hajat tercapai juo kek ghumah Ghaali Yasin, terminal akhir Kombara TIBIES sulong Alumni.


 Pertemuan di ghumah Salleh Simon di Kemensah Heights. paling ghamai hadir moghisik konangan.

Last sekali, sei ulangi sei mintak maap kok dah tersalah baso atau dah tersalah laku di mano2.......